So What the Heck is Unconditional Love?

woman smiling while being kissed on the forehead by a man

I was raised saying, “I love you” to my friends, family, and intimate partners. And while this phrase was freely given as a child, as I grew up I developed a need to know I was going to hear it back before I said it.

Only in the last few years did I learn that this kind of love is conditional. As you may have already realized in your life, this can create a lot of suffering.

In my current partnership, we have agreed to return to unconditional love no matter what. For us, this means regardless of what happens, who hurts who, where trust has been breached, or how much we want to hold a grudge or not forgive each other, we choose to love. We choose to peel back what’s in the way and remember that we are love without needing to do anything.

But, What is Unconditional Love?

Is it really possible to love no matter what? What might it mean to love without any conditions? Without concern, if that love is reciprocated or received? Regardless of how we are treated?

Would it look something like Jesus saying of his crucifiers, “Forgive them, Lord. They know not what they do”? Thinking about the people who have figuratively crucified me, my response is usually quite different. It’s more like, “You’re such a $@%*(%#.”

It makes sense that most of us have no idea what unconditional love is.

Read the full article at Beducated.

Delving into Polyamory

Last week I got to speak with Nikki Leigh who hosts a radio show called Ready for Love. We talking about lots of juicy details in polyamory and nontraditional relationships. Check it out here!

Here is the link to the full 1 hour show (scroll down the page to find the recording.) Please leave a comment and let me know what resonated with you!

Some Things We Discussed – 

  • Monogamy & Polyamory
  • Partnership & Lovership (love this term)
  • What is the best thing about polyamory?
  • What is New Relationship Energy?
  • Jealousy in Polyamory
  • What does showing up authentically in a relationship mean?
  • … and much more

Interesting Quotes and Links

“Definitions are important – not to categorize, but to speak the same language.”

“I truly love the interconnectedness of non-monogamy.”

Poly 101 – Definitions  https://www.morethantwo.com/poly101.pdf

Terms – http://www.readyforloveradio.com/non-monogamous-terms-and-concepts/