Sex on the Chakras

sex on the chakras

Ever noticed how you’re completely compatible with some people in bed?

But not at all with others?

Ever wondered why??

Sex on the Chakras offers insight as to why and how this is, and how to connect better with yourself and your partner’s sexual preferences. Using the wisdom and science of Sacred Sexuality, you’ll leave this workshop a more empowered lover with new skills to tap into and channel your innate desires and sexual energy.

All are welcome in this 3.5 hour workshop, which will include theory and practice around:

– Experiencing the full range of human sexuality – from the animalistic wild side, to the sensualist, to the pure cosmic lover
– Understanding and awakening your partner’s sexual style
– Knowing what you want and how to ask for it
– Strategies for how to last longer in bed
– Awakening new, exciting parts of yourself and your sexuality
– Bringing spirituality into the bedroom
– Empowering your life through awakened sex and lovemaking

After this engaging and playful workshop, you’ll leave with a deeper understanding of yourself, what you desire and how to expand your sexual comfort zone. Please note: There is NO genital or explicit sexual touch in this workshop.

Cost: $40 in advance, $50 at the door

Please, register at https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4094656

Scholarships and Assistantships welcome. Please inquire at [email protected].

Satsang: Your Innate Sexual Essence

sexual-essence

We all have an innate sexual essence. And then we have loads of conditioning, sexual shame and default patterns piled on top of that. Most of us could use some practice awakening and listening to what our unique, innate essence is saying and how it wants to be expressed. Cultivating a consciousness around our deep sexual essence can give you the tools to become more mindful and present, surrender deeper, and free yourself from patterns that you no longer need.

Each week we hold Satsang – “gathering together to share truth” – at the Seattle Tantra Community in the Maple Leaf neighborhood of Seattle. We’ll begin with some personal practice (movement, meditation, mantra), share a teaching and discussion on a topic of Tantra, and conclude with a circle connecting with other community members celebrating the divine within each other.

10:00 – Brief intro to tantra for newcomers; introductions.

10:10 – Asana, pranayama, mantra, meditation

10:50 – Teaching & Discussion

11:30 – Puja

What is a “Satsang”?

In tantra, a satsang is a gathering of spiritual people for the purpose of sharing practice and wisdom. And this is exactly what we do. Each satsang brings different themes and topics, usually presented by Grace, with all discussion welcome and invited. The themes and topics generally touch on aspects of sacred sexuality and the embodied spirituality of classical and neo-tantra. Sometimes we branch into relevant teachings from other traditions, as well as the nuances of non-dual spiritual experience.

How much does this cost?

Satsang is offered on a donation basis. Your gift of any amount to help sustain the instructor and cover costs of the event is welcome. We offer the guidance of $20-$30 to help sustain the community. You can pay by cash, check or card. No one turned away for lack of funds! If you can’t contribute financially, please ask about how else you can support us by volunteering.

Who is this for?

Our satsang is suitable for beginning and experienced tantric practitioners interested in the full range of tantric teaching, including meditation, breath, visualization, yoga, diet, philosophy, and sexuality.

Satsang is open to absolutely all genders, ethnic backgrounds, levels of fitness, sexual orientation, religious or spiritual framework. No experience is assumed. Drop in visits are welcome.

Questions?

Contact Grace at [email protected] or [email protected]

 

 

Sacred Sexuality for Liberated Lovers

Ready to be liberated in your sexuality?

If you are intrigued and excited to ask some compelling questions, uncover your potential as a lover, and tap into the depth of an integrated, whole-life spiritual journey, then come join us!

Sacred Sexuality for Liberated Lovers with Seattle Tantra teacher Grace Bryant is a full-day workshop to develop the union of sex + spirit, or sacred sexuality. The workshop will offer tools for more sacredness and presence in your sexuality and a more liberated sexuality in your spirituality. We’ll address questions like:

What does liberated sexuality feel like?

  • How does my spiritual practice lead to a better relationship with my sexuality?
  • How can I be more present, available and surrendered with my intimate partner(s)?
  • How can I ask for want I want?
  • How do I find more sacredness in my sexuality and in my intimate relationships?

Complete with rituals, theory, practical + playful exercises, and a bunch of fun ways to connect deeply with others, this full-day workshop will give you a whole new vantage point for the union of sex + spirit or sacred sexuality.

We’ll also explore the following topics both in theory and practice:

  • Embracing your own sexuality with more freedom, adventure and acceptance
  • How to crack open and be more available to your partner
  • How Tantra helps build trust in intimate relationships
  • Expanding every intimate connection beyond just the body
  • Transforming desire into reverence
  • Deepening your connection with yourself and others
  • Creating a much, much bigger capacity for love – both giving and receiving
  • Tools to become a better lover
  • Playful and connecting exercises for exploring sensuality, relationships and energy
  • Tantric Rituals & Meditation

Open to individuals and couples of all gender identity and sexual orientation. Please note there is NO nudity or sexual touch in this workshop. Come with an open heart and a willingness to explore yourself and connect with others.

FAQ’s
I’ve been practicing Sacred Sexuality for years. Is this just for beginners?
Nope. This is a foundation that can apply to anyone, wherever you are on the path. The beauty of Tantra is that it encompasses all of life and we can always learn how to bring more intimacy to places we aren’t yet aware of. Experienced practitioners are welcome and encouraged to join! If you’re curious to know more, please contact Grace.

I’m a beginner to Tantra. Will this be accessible for me?
Absolutely. This workshop will lay a foundation that can apply to anyone, wherever you are on the path. For beginners, you’ll get a set of language to start delving into sacred sexuality as well as the experience of playing (in a safe, non-genital touching space) with some like-minded and like-hearted humans. If you’re curious to know more, please contact Grace.

I’m LGBTQ+. Will the practices be relevant for me?
Oh, yes. Grace identifies as Queer and Gender Queer. She offers non-gendered work that plays with how we sit in the masculine/feminine balance at any given moment and how that changes with our different partners, life experiences and moods. We’d love to have more of our LGBTQ+ family at this workshop and at Moksha Tantra Center.

What is Moksha Tantra Center?
Moksha (sanskrit: mokṣa): liberation, emancipation, release from bondage, freedom.
Tantra: a system for awakening understanding beyond the limitations of normal cognitive thinking.
Moksha Tantra reconciles classical tantric spiritual practice with neo-tantra celebration of sacred sexuality. We are a Seattle-based community exploring the practice of freedom.

I’d love to come, but it’s a big financial stretch. Are there scholarships?
Yes. No one will be turned away for lack of funds. And, we are a non-profit organization running on your donations and event fees. Please consider how much you’re able to contribute and contact Grace to see how you can energetically support our community as well.

Cost:
Individual – $95
Couple or Bring-A-Friend – $170 for both
Polycules + Moresomes – $85 per person
Register by September 1st for a 10% discount
*Snacks and tea are included. Please bring a lunch or be prepared to grab something nearby.
No One Turned Away for Lack of Funds – please contact Grace to talk about other financial options

Surrender is Harder for Men

men meditating

by Jenny Jnani Hale

In spiritual circles, it’s fashionable to exhort women to “surrender.” The neo-Tantrics will explain that expanded orgasms lie just the other side of surrender, and that resisting surrender makes a woman “unfeminine.” Fundamentalist Christians and Muslims will point to verses requiring women to “submit” to their husbands (in exchange for protection and being guided to God, of course).

What about men? Do men get a pass in this “surrender” business?

Obviously, to reach transcendent states in which the ego is dissolved, everyone, whether male, female or gender-fluid, will need to make the ultimate surrender – relinquishing the separate self.

The oft-forgotten secret?

This ultimate surrender is waaaay easier for someone in a female body than someone in a male body, at least on average. There are always individuals who buck the trend of their biological gender.

There are spiritual traditions which make it clear that this gender difference was well-known to the ancients.

In Kabbalah, women have only two observances –  a morning consecration, and a weekly ritual of lighting the menorah on shabbat evening. These two small rituals are enough to keep a woman on track, because she is naturally much more connected to the Divine, and less likely to stray from the path. Men, on the other hand, have a dazzling array of practices designed to remind them at every turn that they are here for a Divine purpose, not for personal accomplishments.

In traditional Tantra, every woman, no matter how uneducated, is to be treated as a manifestation of the goddess of instantaneous enlightenment. In some cases, the texts go so far as to say that without the assistance of a woman, a man practicing alone can never reach the highest states of liberation.

In modern times, we can make hypotheses about why this gender difference might occur. We now have some understanding of the effects of hormones on perception and motivation, and the personal testimonials of transgender people who have experienced both versions of reality in the one body.

At the base of the gender difference are the effects of the male hormone, testosterone. Women also have some testosterone, but at much lower levels than men. Testosterone mutes the proprioceptive feedback which forms the basis of interpersonal visceral empathy. In more simple language, testosterone makes us less aware of what is happening both within our body, and within the bodies of the people around us.

Adrenaline also has this effect, which is why stressed women feel so much more isolated than women who have a lot of social support and control of their time. Studies have shown that even spiritual seekers, such as students studying to be ministers, can be made to ignore a person needing medical help if they believe they are late for an exam. Adrenaline is a gender-neutral empathy-suppressant, though. Both men and women suffer from a reduction in empathy and compassion when stressed, regardless of their baseline levels.

One of the major ways to offset the effects of testosterone is to generate more of the “bonding hormones,” such as oxytocin and vasopressin. These hormones are stimulated by physical touch, affection, emotional closeness, trust, and spending a lot of time together.

Given this hormonal recipe, it is easy to see why people in male bodies could get deep spiritual benefits from the loving presence of another person (generally assumed to be of the opposite gender, but unless that person is a highly advanced practitioner with good detachment, personal preferences, cultural taboos and sexual orientation would still play a part).

Neural entrainment is another valuable tool which has been used since time immemorial to help bridge the spiritual gap.

When two individuals consciously “connect,” with or without sustained eye contact, their brain waves synchronize. This process allows someone who is very familiar with a particular state to induce that state in another person, even if that person has never previously experienced that state. In spiritual circles, this is referred to as “initiation”, and is often supported by rituals, which subconsciously encourage the person to be open to receive the new state.

When men are initiated into deeply connected states of consciousness by women, they can attain the same effects as monks who have meditated alone in caves for years on end, within a very short span of time.

In our Western culture, however, we glorify the ruggedly individualistic state in which the average man finds himself. Mainstream media encourages women to “lean in,” to adopt more individualistic traits, to be less receptive and empathetic, and put their own interests first, in order to “make it” in an economy organised around individual men. We lack language to express the ways in which people rise together to accomplish things beyond what can be accomplished as isolated individuals, and we attribute successes to individual leaders, not to well-interconnected teams.

Even in spirituality, the vast majority of publicly visible spiritual leaders are in male bodies. There are more books by male spiritual teachers than females. The work of female spiritual leaders and teachers is often misattributed to their male teachers or disciples. Looking at the available corpus of works and biographies from spiritual leaders, one could be forgiven for thinking that spirituality is generally a masculine pursuit, with women only contributing via fundraising, housekeeping/secretarial services for the Great Leaders (being their consorts in non-celibate traditions), and cleaning the houses of worship.

It is almost impossible for someone raised in such a culture to spontaneously realize that the average woman starts her spiritual journey several stations down the track from where the average man starts, simply by virtue of her biology.

So, if you find yourself in a female body, in a spiritual tradition or community run by men, this is your get-out-of-jail-free card. Your inherent connection with the people around you, and your inner wisdom, will be of more use to you than following instructions that are designed by men for men.

Does a particular practice feel rigid, constraining, or limiting? Allow yourself to explore what happens when you gradually release arbitrary constraints. Do you find yourself sinking deeper into communion, or does the laxity allow you to get distracted?

This is not carte blanche to declare yourself to be your own guru, and not in need of teachers any more. Everyone needs guidance, as the pitfalls on the spiritual path are many and varied.

This is simply a reminder that if you are in a female body, you might not need to do so much, or such highly structured practice, in order to reach the same results as someone in a male body might require. Sinking in may benefit you more than pushing through. Connecting with the Universe may work faster than seeking to transcend it. Honoring your inner wisdom may be more effective than painting by numbers.

And if you are in a male body, you just might be able to save yourself a few years of pushing through and practicing hard, if you can find a woman who is willing to initiate you to the level of consciousness she has already attained!

By Jenny Jnani Hale

Sex on the Chakras

Ever noticed how you’re completely compatible with some people in bed?

But not at all with others?

Ever wondered why?

Sex on the Chakras offers insight as to why and how this is, and how to connect better with yourself and your partner’s sexual preferences. Using the wisdom and science of Tantra, you’ll leave this workshop a more empowered lover with new skills to tap into and channel your innate desires and sexual energy.

All are welcome in this 3.5 hour workshop, which will include theory and practice around:

– Experiencing the full range of human sexuality – from the animalistic wild side, to the sensualist, to the pure cosmic lover
– Understanding and awakening your partner’s sexual style
– Knowing what you want and how to ask for it
– Strategies for how to last longer in bed
– Awakening new, exciting parts of yourself and your sexuality
– Bringing spirituality into the bedroom
– Empowering your life through awakened sex and lovemaking

After this engaging and playful workshop, you’ll leave with a deeper understanding of yourself, what you desire and how to expand your sexual comfort zone. Please note: There is NO genital or explicit sexual touch in this workshop.

Your Host: For the past decade, Grace Bryant has led Yoga, Tantra and Spiritual growth and helped to create communities steeped in truthful connection and conscious living wherever she lived around the world. Her favorite offerings focus on personal empowerment, finding our authentic voices and living with intentional and fearless connection, especially through the lens of conscious sexuality and relationships. Through this lifelong path of awakening, Grace has found a deep sense of peace and trust, and hopes to share this in her teachings.

Cost: $40 in advance, $50 at the door!
Get your ticket here: https://squareup.com/store/moksha-center/item/sex-on-the-chakras

It Exists: The Tantric Quickie

intertwined legs of a man and woman laying on the ground

Have you been thinking that Tantric sex means slow sex?

Slow sex is delicious. It helps us become more aware and attentive to all the sensations, obvious and subtle, that we exchange with another body during lovemaking. But Tantric sex isn’t defined by its speed or duration.

Tantric sex is goalless.

It’s free of expectations. It’s full of a love without attachment. Tantric sex is as deep as the moment allows. And it’s present with what the moment calls for.

I’m all up for slow, all-night lovemaking. Sometimes. I’ll be honest – I like to go to bed early, and I can get tired during the all-night marathons. For me, the Tantric quickie can be just as deep and profound, earth-shattering, and laughter and tear-filled as a longer love-making session.

I also love the excitement of a time limit, a secret hiding place, pulling off the road in a secluded forest, or needing to be really quiet so others don’t know you’re doing it.

Here’s a little “how to” on the Tantric Quickie. Note that these are not rules, they are simply guidelines to keep you on the track of freedom for your afternoon delight, late-night snack, or pit-stop. You make the rules if you need them. And you demolish the rules that don’t serve and keep you limited by stories of right and wrong.

Click here for the full article on Beducated.com

So What the Heck is Unconditional Love?

woman smiling while being kissed on the forehead by a man

I was raised saying, “I love you” to my friends, family, and intimate partners. And while this phrase was freely given as a child, as I grew up I developed a need to know I was going to hear it back before I said it.

Only in the last few years did I learn that this kind of love is conditional. As you may have already realized in your life, this can create a lot of suffering.

In my current partnership, we have agreed to return to unconditional love no matter what. For us, this means regardless of what happens, who hurts who, where trust has been breached, or how much we want to hold a grudge or not forgive each other, we choose to love. We choose to peel back what’s in the way and remember that we are love without needing to do anything.

But, What is Unconditional Love?

Is it really possible to love no matter what? What might it mean to love without any conditions? Without concern, if that love is reciprocated or received? Regardless of how we are treated?

Would it look something like Jesus saying of his crucifiers, “Forgive them, Lord. They know not what they do”? Thinking about the people who have figuratively crucified me, my response is usually quite different. It’s more like, “You’re such a $@%*(%#.”

It makes sense that most of us have no idea what unconditional love is.

Read the full article at Beducated.

Female Ejaculation – A Complete Guide to Splashy Fun

woman floating in a pool looking up

When I was 18, I experienced something I thought at the time was terrifyingly embarrassing. I was in the car with my boyfriend and decided we needed to find a secluded place to touch each other in the woods.

Having found the perfect spot, he pressed me into a tree, lifted my skirt and started fingering my cunt, something he did with diligent precision and expertise from his Maxim magazine reading. After a few minutes and a few big orgasms, we found that there was clear liquid running down my leg.

And, of course, we thought it was pee.

Our short-lived assumption, this is back before you Googled things in your car, was that I had sexual incontinence, meaning that sex made me pee. As this started happening more and more, we did a little research and found that what was coming out of my vagina when he touched me a certain way was NOT in fact urine, it was ejaculate. Female ejaculate.

Over the years, I got really good at ejaculating and even started finding partners who really, really liked female ejaculation. Some even fetishized it. I started watching “squirting” porn and would get very turned on seeing other women ejaculate as well.

And eventually, I became a Tantric practitioner who offers Yoni massage and helps women access this incredibly intimate, sensual and powerful place in themselves.

Read the full article at Beducated.